What Not to Say on the First Date

First dates are often pretty awkward. Figuring out what to talk about is tough. But sometimes what people really don’t know is what not to talk about. There are plenty of topics that are just bad for first date conversations. Sure, it is good to be honest, but you don’t want your date to know everything about you so soon. Telling them everyone that first time can be information overload, and if anything it just makes you seem less mysterious and charming. Make sure you don’t make the common mistake of saying: ? “My ex used to do (fill in) in bed.” No. Just no. There are so many things wrong with this. No matter how many martinis or cocktails you’ve had on your first date, trust us, your date does not want to hear about your ex. Especially about what they did in bed.

? “Whom did you vote for?” Anything political or religious should be avoided. It’s way too deep for the “just getting to know each other” phase.


? “Are you going to eat all of that?” Cute? Not so much. This one is not a great ice breaker. Not great manners either.

? “Do you want to get the bill?” Neither of you should be saying this. It can be confusing to figure who’s supposed to pay. The other person’s opinion on this subject is one of those things you’ll get to learn about them later on, but for now, don’t just ask them to pay. Ladies, you should at least offer and Gentlemen, you should split it if she insists.

? “You know, I really am looking forward to settling down and having kids.” Yikes. Moving a little fast, aren’t you? At no point during your first date should these words be uttered. Are you trying to scare your date off?

? “And this, in the pink sweater, is my fourth cat Bobo--he’s the joker of the family.” A sure way to make a great impression on your date. Not.

? “My shrink keeps telling me...” Of course there’s nothing wrong with seeing a therapist, but do you really want to announce it on a first date? That tells the person that you have issues, and they just don’t know you well enough to be willing to deal with your issues.

? “How much do you make?” The first date isn’t a great time to discuss this. As a matter of fact neither is the second. Or the third.

? “Did you watch last night’s Jersey Shore/Kim and Kourtney?” Save this for your friends, please.

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