How to Ask a Girl Out: Smart Invitation for Dating For some of us to inviting a girl out for a date is the task of a lifetime. What should you say, and how should you say it? Will she agree to or reject your request? Of course, each of the bold spirits who resolve to do this wants to hear from their dream girl: “Yes, I will date you!” Your chances to reach your aim, or just to avoid unpleasant moments of refusal, will increase greatly if you peruse and implement the steps in this guide: 1. Invite her personally Concerning dating opportunities, it may seem a good idea if your friend arranges everything, especially if you are too shy or a little afraid she will refuse. Such an idea can be successful if the girl you want to date knows you very well and wants to go for a date with you too. But if she doesn’t feel the same way or she just isn’t sure in her feelings, the probability to hear “no” is much higher than if you did it by yourself. She will be greatly surprised why you didn’t do it by yourself, and wonder why you took such an action. Do you not want excessive hassle, or are you afraid others will see you talking or standing together? Perhaps she will think it’s just a joke your friends have, which you don’t know anything about? This girl may know you a little, but might thing you are antisocial or afraid of human contact or, worse still, very lazy, since you decided to ask your friends for help. Maybe you have a terrible voice to her ears; a woman’s imagination has no limit, so you will more likely get what you want if decide to do everything on your own. If you are one of those shy guys afraid to ask for a date, just make a call. Yes, you can write a note, but then a girl will be lost in conjecture. She’ll ask herself why you didn’t do this in the flesh. Anyway, live chat will give you one significant advantage – you will surely get a concrete answer. A note can be ignored easily. 2. Choose the best moment The better moment you choose, the higher chance you have. To reach your aim, do not ask for a date in presence of other people .A girl can be confused or carry herself too proudly and refuse you just so she can make an impression on your or her company or think you decided to make fun of her.
Don’t try to arrange a date with someone who is upset or is in a bad mood (maybe she has some troubles and wants to be alone); if this girl has great success, she may think you invite her just because of it. Do not ask for a date immediately if other girls refuse you, because nobody wants to be a co-pilot. 3. Come straight to the point The best option while asking for a date is to speak concretely. For example: “Do you want to go with me to the cinema on Friday?” If you start explain your proposition confusedly and incoherently, like: “Do you like cinema?” you will just drag out a conversation and move, that very moment, further and further away. Maybe she likes cinema but doesn’t want to go there with you or she wants to date but is ambivalent when it comes to movies.
A proposition along the lines of “And would you mind going on a date with me?” isn’t much better an option, as it can take her by surprise. Do you really want to get a ‘no’ response? A concrete offer is the best variant. If this girl wants to go out with you, but wants to go somewhere else, she will tell you. And if she doesn’t see any future in your relationship, she will refuse delicately and make it easier for both of you to bear. 4. Don’t hurry… Do not expect to hear ‘yes’ immediately after you finish your inspired speech. We all have our own life and plans for the next day, even for the rest of the week, so make your invitation at least 2 days before the date itself. 5. … but don’t delay too much Do not quicken any relations but also do not play with destiny and arrange a date 10 days or two weeks beforehand. Surely, this girl will be free but she will wonder why you can’t meet earlier or just rebuff you without hesitation. 6. Keep it simple… Do not throw dust in a girl’s eyes. Unsuccessful can be considered a phrase like: “I love you so much and want to date” or a confession you were looking for meeting with this girl and have followed her everywhere. You will be considered crazy and nobody will date you for sure. Ardour and a great desire to make an impression are attractive and flattering, but only within reasonable limits. The fact you ask for a date automatically means ”I like you”, nothing more. 7. …but not too much Some young people make a mistake in trying to hide their fear of being refused under the cover of a malicious stinging remark or even impudence.
It looks awkward or even rude and, what is more important, takes an opposite effect: if you continue to behave yourself in such a way you will surely increase your chances to get the bullet. 8. Have confidence in yourself To be shy isn’t a bad thing. We are all timid in this or that way and a certain portion of it hasn’t spoiled anybody yet. But people unable to overcome their shyness look bashful, and if you are ready to humble yourself, other people will surely help you! In other words if you say, ”I can hardly hope such wonderful pretty girl all guys look at, will take the proposition of such miserable a person as I am” I doubt a girl will take your invitation. And the last thing – what to do if she wants to come with her friend? You probably haven’t presented your intentions towards her or she is too childish, plays the fool. Tell her to come alone – you won’t allow her to be bored, just the two of you.
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